My wife is not my companion – but another person is

Dear Abe: She got married for 31 years. I love my wife, but now we are more like a room colleague or friends than lovers who were initially. We are also not colleagues of the soul. We both agree that a few husbands.

But I met my companion three years ago. The initial chemistry has been amazing, and we have been “dating” since then. I put “dating” in quotes because nothing happened physical, not even holding their hands. But we have an intense eye connection and amazing discussions. We can speak for hours, in the past when it is time to leave. I did not test a friendship like this. I know that it is not fascination or a middle -aged crisis. Chemistry there. I never deceived my wife, and I do not want it. Not who I am. I don’t want to hurt anyone. But it should give something.

The moral answer, of course, is to maintain the current situation, but I am not convinced to increase happiness for all parties, and certainly not for me. At the age of sixty, I know that I will feel very sorry if I allow a spiritual agreement to leave, and likewise if my wife leaves. I live with the torture of this dilemma every day. Do you have any vision? Pentestonia in Pennsylvania

Dear confusion: I am sorry that you did not mention if the “Soul’s friend” was also married, or how you feel about you. How does your wife feel about the fact that you are holding these intensive hours that take hours with another woman? Do you even know?

You mentioned that you are happy with happiness and love your wife. There will be a logical way to find out what you want for your future is to ask your wife to join you in consulting a licensed marriage processor and a family therapist to help you know how (and whether it is) you can revive what the two of you originally.

Dear Abe: Our 40 -year -old son has become a complete narcissist and blames us (his sister, her husband, my husband and me) because of the two -year -old family defection. He tells lies about us and prevents us from our granddaughter. Any attempt to contact him has been met with toxic texts full of vibrant.

Our son went through a bad divorce and a terrible nursery, but we did our best to support him financially and emotionally during that time. He is now happy with happiness, but he still deprives us of reaching his daughter. We are sad. This is not the way we have erected. Any suggestions? Performed in North Carolina

Dear confusion: I mentioned that your son “is supposed to marry happily.” Can his new wife have a relationship with this division? Unless your son has a psychotic break after his divorce, and in his delusions, he believes that you, your husband, his sister and her husband are blaming everything that happens. Something has definitely changed. Family counseling may help heal the breach, but only if it agrees to need it.

Dear Abe, written by Abigil van Burin, also known as Jin Phillips, and was founded by her mother Pauline Phillips. Call dear Abe in www.dearabby.com Or Po Box 69440, Los Angeles, California 90069.